Why women why?

[flora1941]

• Second premise: Your action nowadays of compromise turns women off. When I first picked up women, I had to not talk about my accomplishments and had to ask about theirs. The reason why those among us can't give relationship advice is that they have this key aspect wrong. Sure, you can compromise when the nest is empty and the game shows are on, but my most foolish thing was to worry about me.

• With that in mind, I said what I said because every guy in the world who has a wife or girlfriend or domestic partner has that and executes it to a T. If you are a female, sure, you don't like it. But I have been in enough gossip circles to know that there is triage in beefcake hunting.

•And just for good measure, I asked a female friend and co-worker who I would give my life for, Taylor, about the discussion. She not only told me my argument was fact, but laughed at the fact it spurred the argument. Furthermore, the lengthy discussion and tirades proves that not only do I have resonance but probably means I probably do have a majority of my points right. Given the childish behavior germane to these boards, I think you boys and girls know you're wrong but still want to argue your tantrum through.

How sad. Could it possibly be the type of women you are meeting. I just cannot believe (or maybe) I just don't want believe it, that all women are like this. My granddaughters are not like this. They tell me of their boyfriends/husbands achievements, what they are aspiring to, and are wondering/hoping that they have met "the one". They also want to marry or have married and want a home and a family to raise. They would like to be a stay at home mom if possible, but are wise enough to know that they may not be able to. They do not care how much money and prestige the man may have, just that they can be happy together. They seem to want what the male in their lives want and above all, they listen. They are NOT materialistic. Of course, I have always impressed upon them that material items come and go. They can always be replaced. Love and doing what is right is forever.

Now, when you find the right woman (and I pray that you will), she will be interested in you, your feelings, what you want to do with your life, and in return, she should then tell you what she wants in life. How in the world could you ever find out if you are compatible or not. Then again, maybe this is why there are so many divorces. Couples need to go a little slower, get to know each other. Maybe women are being selfish, and it has to be all about them.

Life is compromises. Marriage is commitment. Give and take is the answer to a lot of problems of today.

I am still praying that the day will come when you meet a woman that can and will be interested in your feelings and what it is that you want. We are not all materialistic, conniving, selfish people (male or female). Start looking for the best in people and not picking out the worse.

[gameshowfan91]

One day, I recently went up to a girl and asked her if she wanted to be friends, and she said that she's working out. Next day, I once again, asked her if she wanted to be friends, and her response was same. It implies that she didn't want to be friends probably because she thinks I'm fat. Around school, I see a lot of girls with guys with a "perfect body." It makes me sick because fat/ugly men get ignored. People like me can be just as good, or better, as them. My mom dated my dad because of what's on inside, not outside. My dad was chubby when my mom met him. What's wrong with women these days!?

[M2nFarisFan]

One day, I recently went up to a girl and asked her if she wanted to be friends, and she said that she's working out. Next day, I once again, asked her if she wanted to be friends, and her response was same. It implies that she didn't want to be friends probably because she thinks I'm fat. Around school, I see a lot of girls with guys with a "perfect body." It makes me sick because fat/ugly men get ignored. People like me can be just as good, or better, as them. My mom dated my dad because of what's on inside, not outside. My dad was chubby when my mom met him. What's wrong with women these days!?

It depends. Women in general don't like overweight men. Why? If you can't take care of your own body, why would they trust you with theirs? Actually, the truth is that you don't want them anyways....if they look at the body rather than your personality, chances are they also tend to flake. For example, when I was at Penn State, I had a girl chasing me named Sasha. Sasha was a softball player, had voluptuous hips, a good attitude, and generally was friendly. I even worked with her on a humanities project in Haiti (yes, I do have a worldly vision, it helps). Sasha texted me several times up there, rather anonymously. Then, she began working out and getting lean and mean. In the interest of her, she got tan, and to me, looks like one of the Haitians we studied back in '04. I can't even get her to message me back now. Why? Well, I was a pawn for her back then because she didn't have guys chasing her all the time. Now that she's tan and living the Jersey Shore life, she gets serviced all the time. To me, I think she looks like a cancer patient. But somehow, that's hot.

As a tip, gameshowfan, you don't have to worry if a girl doesn't think you are beautiful. You have to care about her, but realize she is the one who has the options, not you. It's the guy's job to ask and put himself on the line. Many guys (including myself) fear rejection sometimes. But there are millions of single women in this world. There's one that likes you. I found out that Amy and I weren't working out, but you know what? It was probably better. I found out she was giving illegal discounts and was suspended from her job. I don't know about you, but given the fact I have a Penn State education and going to grad school at Duquesne University in the fall, a well-to-do family that has values (trust me, they are few and far between), and in the process of getting work in the field, I think if I have to wait until I have a firm independence, I'll be happy. Because in general, women and relationships are always, ALWAYS ridden with maintenance. So don't worry about being single. Don't be like the other posters in this thread and see women as "I get a chance to be l**d tonight. Yay." See it as a chance to extend yourself and integrate.

[racingchick1020]

One day, I recently went up to a girl and asked her if she wanted to be friends, and she said that she's working out. Next day, I once again, asked her if she wanted to be friends, and her response was same. It implies that she didn't want to be friends probably because she thinks I'm fat. Around school, I see a lot of girls with guys with a "perfect body." It makes me sick because fat/ugly men get ignored. People like me can be just as good, or better, as them. My mom dated my dad because of what's on inside, not outside. My dad was chubby when my mom met him. What's wrong with women these days!?

I'm around 200 pounds myself. (Yeah, a woman never says how much she weighs, but I'm an exception.) You think I don't have friends? Try again.

You obviously can't grasp the concept of "fat people can't make friends". Just to let you know, I have friends who are carrying a little bit more. I'm not shallow.

[gameshowfan91]

It depends. Women in general don't like overweight men. Why? If you can't take care of your own body, why would they trust you with theirs?

As a tip, gameshowfan, you don't have to worry if a girl doesn't think you are beautiful. You have to care about her, but realize she is the one who has the options, not you. It's the guy's job to ask and put himself on the line. Many guys (including myself) fear rejection sometimes. But there are millions of single women in this world. There's one that likes you. I found out that Amy and I weren't working out, but you know what? It was probably better. I found out she was giving illegal discounts and was suspended from her job. I don't know about you, but given the fact I have a Penn State education and going to grad school at Duquesne University in the fall, a well-to-do family that has values (trust me, they are few and far between), and in the process of getting work in the field, I think if I have to wait until I have a firm independence, I'll be happy. Because in general, women and relationships are always, ALWAYS ridden with maintenance. So don't worry about being single. Don't be like the other posters in this thread and see women as "I get a chance to be l**d tonight. Yay." See it as a chance to extend yourself and integrate.

I DO take care of my body. I'm 5'8" and weigh 222lbs. I go to a gym. I did go to her and asked her. My body is far from "perfect;" it's not like I'm obese and eat constantly. Nobody has a perfect body. I don't worry about my looks. I don't see women as a chance to get l**d.

[racingchick1020]

I DO take care of my body. I'm 5'8" and weigh 222lbs. I go to a gym. I did go to her and asked her. My body is far from "perfect;" it's not like I'm obese and eat constantly. Nobody has a perfect body. I don't worry about my looks. I don't see women as a chance to get l**d.

Have you ever considered that maybe it's more of a personality reason than a physical reason?

[M2nFarisFan]

Have you ever considered that maybe it's more of a personality reason than a physical reason?

QFT. In actuality, once you're married, it doesn't matter any more. Most good looking guys are pretty much self absorbed and care more about keeping their cars clean and being seen with as many women as possible. Once the knot's tied, guys tend to slack off on the looks and worry more about fulfillment. If she is worried about you being "fat", chances are it's a mask for something else that is bothering her. In general, it's the primary reason why I don't ask, mostly because I don't want to have to bother with her drama because I seemingly have a bountiful harvest of my own of it.

[TheNewNeko]

QFT. In actuality, once you're married, it doesn't matter any more. Most good looking guys are pretty much self absorbed

So why exactly are you so full of yourself, out of morbid curiosity?

Mandy's got a point. You must be emitting an aura that's about 30 degrees below freezing or as black as the streets of Philadelphia at midnight with no traffic lights, no moon, no stars, no headlights, no taillights and no street lamps if she's not even being your friend and making you progressively feel like crap by talking about her boyfriend like it's the only thing keeping oxygen in their lungs.

You might want to just try at least projecting something a little less like the universe is about to collapse before you start talking to a girl.

[racingchick1020]

For those of you who don't know about this yet, let me tell you a story.

I was involved in a - *ahem* - relationship with a guy a couple of years ago. This wasn't even a relationship, now that I think of it. We only saw each other once a week, and at one point in time, I told him that calling me at 8am on a Saturday while I'm still trying to sleep wasn't going to work (the old man actually woke me up and forced me to take it). If there was one moment in this relationship that I thought things weren't going to work out, it was when he started to buy me stuff. And a lot of it. It was either candy or goodies. Once, Mom told me that he had bought a keychain for me (one of those "gifts" he kept giving me as a sign that he really wanted to date me), and I basically told him off. He threw it; not at me, which was nice. I eventually called off the relationship by writing him a letter - a civilized one - telling him that maybe we could still be friends. Well, he made a death threat towards one of my friends, and that was the end of that. We barely talk about things now. I'm friends with his brother, and I prefer that instead of being a cling-on to someone with a very (s-bomb)ty personality.

For those of you who still claim that it's all about looks in a relationship, look no further than this story.

[gameshowfan91fan]

http://boards.philadelphiaeagles.com...#entry16379016

[TheNewNeko]

http://boards.philadelphiaeagles.com...#entry16379016

Dude, dude... seriously. Why are you going to a FOOTBALL board to ask about romantic advice? Now it says that it can't find your post, but my point still stands.

There are three major problems with your approach right now. And this is something you're going to have to seriously work on if you ever want to find someone:

1. Why in the hell are you asking for romantic advice on boards that specialize in stuff like football or game shows? EHarmony has a dating advice board. Although, to be fair, they have the tolerance of the Nazi party. But still, you can probably get better advice there.

2. Not for nothing, but you sound desperate. You're almost as bad as the first Leisure Suit Larry game. It's okay to state you need a girlfriend. It's not okay to state that you need one every two weeks that you freakin' post.

3. Your attitude sucks. I mean that. And this is coming from a guy who has a disorder that has a 90% depression rate along with severely maladjusted social skills. It takes a lot for me to say that someone else's attitude blows, but yours does. What would happen if you got a girlfriend? I doubt it would have more than about a 10% change in your mood, and you'd find something else to feel like the world is dumping on you.

Pile it all together and what do you get? If you managed to land a girlfriend, she'd probably not want to hang around you because of your toxic aura. I'd recommend a serious attitude adjustment with friends that can help you before you even try to land a girlfriend.

[phimat37]

I think this thread needs to go. I think a lot of people have gave advice here. This kind of stuff is for the eHarmony or another dating site message board.

[M2nFarisFan]

One thing is for sure....there is no misogyny like calling someone gay as an insult. Because by saying that, you state that womanistic traits are worse than manly ones...which means you, my friend, hate women and consider them lesser and weaker than men. Give it some thought although this is not the first hypocrisy spoken on this board.

[Lingofan97]

This thread is giving me sooooo much dating advice jk